I cannot believe you ruined your algorithm for this, but that just shows your commitment to the plot. I love this deeply. I love you. And I won't try and do anything with it except just love you more every day 🤗
This idea of love touches me deeply, Giselle. The idea that it can exist without wanting more, without expecting to “own” something is a freeing thought, rather than insisting on possession. I (of course) have a particular relationship in mind when I think of this, and I appreciate this perspective as I go on to navigate it.
Thank you for these thoughts, Emily. It just made me think about whether our desire to "own" something or someone could also be linked to how regulated or safe we feel in that setting. Do we crave that sense of possession because we're uncertain... Will explore in my journal! Thanks for the invitation to probe deeper x
I so enjoyed the journey of reading this piece. Savoring all the things life has to offer doesn’t mean we need to take and keep it all. I think It’s more valuable when we discern what is extra special to cherish and hold for as long as possible. Not everything we experience can be that! I think though some people pursue the “next” thing as a destination/milestone instead of allowing things to naturally evolve at their own pace. Relationships can evolve into a marriage. A house can evolve into a home. An idea can evolve into a book. Don’t have to but can ya know? Anyways thanks for the lovely piece. Peace 🫶🏾
I often remind myself outloud “just because it was good, you don’t need more” whether it be a person, a cupcake or the sunshine 😄 it helps me halt that auto response from taking over and detracting what was actually something that brought me joy just as it was!
As a Swiftie who has a hard time with all the pondering, I can’t tell you how much I appreciated this! Also, I felt like you were speaking straight to my heart when you wrote about just letting feelings be the fleeting creatures they’re supposed to be. Paraphrasing there but I feel you will know what I mean.💖
"Letting feelings be the fleeting creatures they're supposed to be" - just magic. The pondering is really interesting isn't it, and just also speaks to our expectation that love is only love if it's forever and would Swifties still be this excited if Travis was just a wonderful lover and they happily choose to go their seperate ways after a gorgeous love affair.
I have a lot of feelings about promises of forever, but I'm also happily married, and still slightly codependent but in an aware and loving way 😅 However, I do wish that I were more able to simply allow people, feelings, experiences, ect. to be instead of holding on so tightly. I'm learning but it's a slow process and does not come easily or naturally to me. I wonder how many other Swifties struggle in the same way? And Ms.Swift herself? The idea that someone could be forever, is baked into the very essence of so many of her songs. I suppose it's an idea we are sold from a very young age and I don't feel there are that many conversations around alternatives. Other than you really! Which I suppose why it resonates so deeply for me as I'm in the flux of wanting to change but struggling to learn how to let go.
Thank you for writing this, Giselle. I love more than I know how to love. But I rebel wildly against stuffing ourselves into constructs and boxes for external validation and consumption.
It's complex isn't it Dana, the beauty of holding all of that love and us knowing that it's more than enough, but the world around us is always desperate to invalidate it until we "do" something with it.
I cannot believe you ruined your algorithm for this, but that just shows your commitment to the plot. I love this deeply. I love you. And I won't try and do anything with it except just love you more every day 🤗
All I see now is Taylor Swift and food reviews from people shopping at M&S. I love you friend
This idea of love touches me deeply, Giselle. The idea that it can exist without wanting more, without expecting to “own” something is a freeing thought, rather than insisting on possession. I (of course) have a particular relationship in mind when I think of this, and I appreciate this perspective as I go on to navigate it.
Thank you for these thoughts, Emily. It just made me think about whether our desire to "own" something or someone could also be linked to how regulated or safe we feel in that setting. Do we crave that sense of possession because we're uncertain... Will explore in my journal! Thanks for the invitation to probe deeper x
This is so beautifully written.
I so enjoyed the journey of reading this piece. Savoring all the things life has to offer doesn’t mean we need to take and keep it all. I think It’s more valuable when we discern what is extra special to cherish and hold for as long as possible. Not everything we experience can be that! I think though some people pursue the “next” thing as a destination/milestone instead of allowing things to naturally evolve at their own pace. Relationships can evolve into a marriage. A house can evolve into a home. An idea can evolve into a book. Don’t have to but can ya know? Anyways thanks for the lovely piece. Peace 🫶🏾
"Don't have to, but can ya know?" - this, this, this. Thank you for so beautifully capturing the essence of all of this within your question.
I often remind myself outloud “just because it was good, you don’t need more” whether it be a person, a cupcake or the sunshine 😄 it helps me halt that auto response from taking over and detracting what was actually something that brought me joy just as it was!
This is so good 😂 I'll be thinking this often from now on. As well as "something that brought me joy just as it was" - potent stuff. Thank you Laura!
As a Swiftie who has a hard time with all the pondering, I can’t tell you how much I appreciated this! Also, I felt like you were speaking straight to my heart when you wrote about just letting feelings be the fleeting creatures they’re supposed to be. Paraphrasing there but I feel you will know what I mean.💖
"Letting feelings be the fleeting creatures they're supposed to be" - just magic. The pondering is really interesting isn't it, and just also speaks to our expectation that love is only love if it's forever and would Swifties still be this excited if Travis was just a wonderful lover and they happily choose to go their seperate ways after a gorgeous love affair.
I have a lot of feelings about promises of forever, but I'm also happily married, and still slightly codependent but in an aware and loving way 😅 However, I do wish that I were more able to simply allow people, feelings, experiences, ect. to be instead of holding on so tightly. I'm learning but it's a slow process and does not come easily or naturally to me. I wonder how many other Swifties struggle in the same way? And Ms.Swift herself? The idea that someone could be forever, is baked into the very essence of so many of her songs. I suppose it's an idea we are sold from a very young age and I don't feel there are that many conversations around alternatives. Other than you really! Which I suppose why it resonates so deeply for me as I'm in the flux of wanting to change but struggling to learn how to let go.
Thank you for writing this, Giselle. I love more than I know how to love. But I rebel wildly against stuffing ourselves into constructs and boxes for external validation and consumption.
It's complex isn't it Dana, the beauty of holding all of that love and us knowing that it's more than enough, but the world around us is always desperate to invalidate it until we "do" something with it.